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Offline kNova

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Dating Advice
« on: April 04, 2008, 04:46:50 PM »
So as some of you might know, I went through kind of a rough break-up Monday..
But I got to talking to my online-brother about the breakup and he started rambling off advice.

A lot of it is pretty good. Figured I'd post it. XD

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_  Matt  _ says:
The two things, that no matter what, a girl hates, is when 1) you take her away from her friends, and kinda suffocate her world, and 2) know, that no matter what, she might hug other guys, and such, but know, they arent anything more then friends to her, you need to accept that.
_  Matt  _ says:
Yeah, but bascially, its because she wants your opinion about her friends.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
The thing is, the guy I was afraid of, was more than a friend.
_  Matt  _ says:
She wanted you to like her friends, and tell her which ones could lead to problems.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
That is what I told her.  
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
I was very calm and plite about it too.
_  Matt  _ says:
Ah, obviously not, because if you did, you didnt specify what is wrong with the accused.
_  Matt  _ says:
Haha, want me to teach you how to profile?  
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
XD
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
Nah.
_  Matt  _ says:
I do it without even realizing now. Lol.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
I can read people very well. And I did tell her what my problem with the few guys were.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
The only two guys I had a problem with were Ian and Matt.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
When she was younger, Ian tried getting her with another girl and video taping her...
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
Matt is the guy she's with now.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
And I saw that coming.
_  Matt  _ says:
Kay, now, step one to problem one : When did you see it coming?
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
About 3 weeks ago.
_  Matt  _ says:
Okay, right at the start, pretty much
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
For the first week, I said nothing.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
We started dating about a month ago.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
The 9th would have been our 1 month anniverary.
_  Matt  _ says:
Its still the start, pretty much, you were still getting to know her friends.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
I knew all of her friends.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
Very, very well.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
Including Matt.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
She was OBSESSESSED with me.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
Utterly obsessed.
_  Matt  _ says:
Okay, well, first thing, is did you talk to her, repeatedly, calmly, etc to her, until the point where you two broke?
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
But then after a week, she started talking with me less.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
I tried to bring it up many times.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
And she always said "No Blade! I love youa nd only you! For life! I'd never cheat on you! If we ever broke up I'd kill myself!"
_  Matt  _ says:
Kay, you need to start learning to profile, the method I do it, cause it saves you all the pain, and problems, seriously lol.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
Profile? XD
_  Matt  _ says:
Yeah
_  Matt  _ says:
Basically, it means, you get a feeling for the personality of the person, they're habits, and likes/dislikes, and you can pick up if they like you even before they're sure of it.
_  Matt  _ says:
Its real easy to learn to do too, after that, its all practice.
_  Matt  _ says:
Bascially, when you make a new girly friend, dont rush in on her, if shes single. Basic steps, its real easy.
_  Matt  _ says:
Talk to her casually, not every day, but like, once, maybe even every two days, just keep the talks easy going and stuff, never try to pry.
_  Matt  _ says:
Get her to start to earn your trust early, but dont open yourself up right away.
_  Matt  _ says:
After about a month, they have a sense of trust and honesty in you, and they'll start to relax more and more with you.
_  Matt  _ says:
If you know the person in real life, try and chit chat with them, wherever they are, but dont stalk them lol, they hate that.
_  Matt  _ says:
Try and get some small get togethers, with her friends first, because she would be with people she knows, trusts and hangs out with alot, that way, she has her own little security blanket, while you, you would be on your own.
_  Matt  _ says:
Once she starts to really start to ask you to hang out, talk and stuff like that, thats when you can start to really go and open up to them, you know, tell them that you would help them with anything, make time for them if they need the help, etc, but dont tell them your they're best friend yet, let them tell you that.
_  Matt  _ says:
And depending on the girl, the instant she starts to talk a little flirtily, like saying hun, dear, etc, then you can start to notice that she likes you, but dont push on it yet, let it develop.
_  Matt  _ says:
Following me up to now?
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
XD Yah.
_  Matt  _ says:
Kay, lol.
_  Matt  _ says:
I thought I lost you for a sec haha.
_  Matt  _ says:
Are you writing this down on a paper? XD
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
No. Lmao.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
Just.. Multitasking.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
As always.
_  Matt  _ says:
Haha, kay.
_  Matt  _ says:
Well, basically, after you got the feeling that she likes you, start to give her signs, so she can ask you, but play around with it, dont admit to it openly, give her hints, but keep it modest and playful.
_  Matt  _ says:
Eventually, when you guys get a chance alone, along the way, try just talking to her, see how she is feeling and such.
_  Matt  _ says:
And if things work out just right, you might end up with a new girlfriend after that.
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Re: Dating Advice
« Reply #1 on: April 04, 2008, 04:53:10 PM »
Also, in before Smash&Crash. Good advice though for people.

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Re: Dating Advice
« Reply #2 on: April 04, 2008, 05:07:19 PM »
Also, here is a lesson in respect.

[spoilers:3elhmm2k]† shanna †  {Stuff...} says:
i'm not one of your true friends am i
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
Not really.
† shanna †  {Stuff...} says:
didn't think so
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
It's a list of 3, maybe 4.
† shanna †  {Stuff...} says:
i see
† shanna †  {Stuff...} says:
so you made a list as i did?
† shanna †  {Stuff...} says:
after creating it, it makes you think differently about everyone else doesn't it
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
Nope.
† shanna †  {Stuff...} says:
to me it does
† shanna †  {Stuff...} says:
i treat almost everyone differently
† shanna †  {Stuff...} says:
and feel different things when i'm speaking to them
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
It just made me realize people don't think of ME how I thought theys hould
† shanna †  {Stuff...} says:
i see
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
Doing that just pushes them away farther.
† shanna †  {Stuff...} says:
hehe
† shanna †  {Stuff...} says:
no it doesn't
† shanna †  {Stuff...} says:
they're treated as they're deserved
† shanna †  {Stuff...} says:
just as much respect as they give me and others around them
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
Always give people more respect than they deserve.
† shanna †  {Stuff...} says:
why
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
Because.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
Lets say..
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
You have 5 bananas.
† shanna †  {Stuff...} says:
haha
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
Your friend deserves 3 bananas.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
You give him 3 bananas.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
Your friend has 3, you have 2.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
Your friend thinks you only deserve 1 more banana.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
Now you have 3, your frined has 1.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
That keeps going on.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
And you only have 5 bananas.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
But the wonderful thing about love is..
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
You have 5 bananas.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
Your friend has none.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
YOu love your friend.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
You give all 5 bananas to your friend, even if he/she doesn't deserve it.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
YOur friend sees this as a very kind act and gives you 5 back.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
You two argue about it for a while until you decide to go to the grocery store and buy 5 more bananas so you both have 5.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
Now you have a total of 10 bananas.
Gamemaster kN. - On Gunz. http://www.aplusgunz.com says:
That is love.[/spoilers:3elhmm2k]
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Re: Dating Advice
« Reply #3 on: April 04, 2008, 05:10:39 PM »
Powerful stuff right there. I make up little things like this when my friends are having problems.

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Re: Dating Advice
« Reply #4 on: April 04, 2008, 06:27:00 PM »
One word: Chloroform
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Re: Dating Advice
« Reply #5 on: April 05, 2008, 12:05:43 AM »
Quote from: "AlMightyBob"
One word: Chloroform

This is dating advice. Not date rape advice.
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Re: Dating Advice
« Reply #6 on: April 05, 2008, 12:07:30 AM »
Quote from: "kNova"
Quote from: "AlMightyBob"
One word: Chloroform

This is dating advice. Not date rape advice.

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Re: Dating Advice
« Reply #7 on: April 05, 2008, 12:29:07 AM »
Quote from: "JJames19119"
Quote from: "kNova"
Quote from: "AlMightyBob"
One word: Chloroform

This is dating advice. Not date rape advice.

This is 72dpi. Not MySpace.

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Re: Dating Advice
« Reply #8 on: April 10, 2008, 07:25:52 PM »
I wish this advice could help me but all of the girls just hate me probably.

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Re: Dating Advice
« Reply #9 on: April 10, 2008, 08:06:33 PM »
At least if you try, you have a chance.

Sitting there thinking no one likes you won't get you anywhere.
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Re: Dating Advice
« Reply #10 on: April 10, 2008, 10:55:58 PM »
Quote from: "AlMightyBob"
At least if you try, you have a chance.

Sitting there thinking no one likes you won't get you anywhere.

Of course, don't try on whim. Just because you meet a girl and the day after meeting her your heart flutters, you shouldn't necessarily make a move on her. Do that with two many girls and you'll get a reputation as a creep. >> Pick who you're going to try first well first. :P
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Re: Dating Advice
« Reply #11 on: April 11, 2008, 02:33:40 PM »
Quote from: "kNova"
Quote from: "AlMightyBob"
At least if you try, you have a chance.

Sitting there thinking no one likes you won't get you anywhere.

Of course, don't try on whim. Just because you meet a girl and the day after meeting her your heart flutters, you shouldn't necessarily make a move on her. Do that with two many girls and you'll get a reputation as a creep. >> Pick who you're going to try first well first. :P
:cry:  :cry:  :cry: I tried twice and and I liked both of them for about 5 months. :cry:  :cry:  :cry:

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Re: Dating Advice
« Reply #12 on: April 11, 2008, 03:23:46 PM »
As they say, "Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.".
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Re: Dating Advice
« Reply #13 on: April 11, 2008, 04:58:41 PM »
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As they say, "Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.".
:cry:  :cry:  :cry: Sure. Whatever.  :cry:  :cry:  :cry:

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Re: Dating Advice
« Reply #14 on: April 11, 2008, 05:37:16 PM »
Quote from: "Smash and Crash.1"
Quote from: "AlMightyBob"
As they say, "Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.".
:cry:  :cry:  :cry: Sure. Whatever.  :cry:  :cry:  :cry:
Watch the smiley overdose. Anyways, some relationships take longer to get over than others. Also, it seems as if you want to find the perfect girl now. Don't expect it; she'll come eventually, but it'll be some years from now. You're not the only guy who has girl problems; most of us here are in the same boat as you are. Just be patient; it'll all work out someday. That's what I tell myself at least. Just have some faith.
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